All too often, we go about our lives until, one day, we take a long, hard look in our mirrors and realize we’ve been neglecting ourselves. But that doesn’t mean it’s ever too late for a positive change.
For instance, not long after the birth of her third child, Brittany Gibbons remembers stepping out of the shower and catching sight of her body in the bathroom mirror. She immediately thought, Who let my mom in here? She was crushed. Eventually, Brittany realized she desperately needed to regain confidence in her body, self, and spirit. To do so, she came up with a rather interesting idea.
What she said after she completed her goal was perhaps even more revealing…
Nearly everyone, at some point in their life, has looked in the mirror and been unhappy with what they saw. It’s easy to get so wrapped up in life—caring about work, family, friends, pets—that it’s understandable if you forget about yourself.
Brittany Gibbons experienced that very issue. Sometime after the birth of her third child, she looked in the mirror and thought, Who let my mom in here? That she was no longer a shining beacon of youth was a revelation she wasn’t prepared to experience, even though everyone does it.
At first, she moped. Eventually, though, she embarked on a year-long journey to refresh her mind, body, and spirit. Her plan? Have sex with her husband, Andy, every day for a year. This is what she had to say about it…
Good Housekeeping / Brittany Gibbons
“Three years ago I had sex every single day, for one whole year,” said Brittany. “To answer the most popular questions I’ve been asked since: No, it was not with 365 men. It was with one, my husband. Yes, even while I was on my period.“
“I have no idea what my kids were doing while we were having sex. I assume not watching us,” she joked. “And finally, no, I didn’t do it to save my marriage. I did it to save myself, the effect it had on my marriage was merely a perk.” That’s not the whole story, however…
See, after the birth of her third child, Brittany’s confidence took a major hit. “From that point on, I didn’t let myself be naked,” she admitted. “I kept the lights off during sex, hid my stomach and boobs inside a camisole, and I waited for my husband to leave the bedroom before barreling from the shower to my closet to get dressed.”
“As the years went by, the absence of my naked body began to worry me. Did my husband, Andy, even know what I looked like naked anymore?” After devising their plan, and setting it in motion (np pun intended), Brittany and Andy started to see amazing results almost immediately!
Brittany Gibbons / Good Housekeeping
“Sex begat more sex, and those connected, loved-up feelings began to creep outside of the bedroom—or in our case, the laundry room, the closet and our garage—and into our everyday lives. We were more romantic with each other, touching arms as we passed, kissing longer before work and not just the cold familiar peck,” Brittany said. “Our relationship was stronger and better when our intimacy was flourishing.”
Brittany continued: “A year in, I stopped wearing clothes entirely. At least, I assume that is what my kids would say. I stopped that primal run from the shower, and now lazily walked to the closet naked. I made school lunches in my underwear, and didn’t reflexively pull away when Andy came up behind me and wrapped his arms around my waist. My relationship with my husband, and my body, had changed in amazing ways.”
“I used to joke that I never wanted to have to be in a position to date again, because my body wasn’t ‘showroom ready.’ While I naturally hope to stay married to Andy until the end of time, and should I die first, haunt him, I don’t have that fear anymore, because my definition of desirable has changed,” Brittany said. “It was never about anyone wanting me, it was about me wanting myself. And it only took an entire year of getting laid to figure that out.” Way to go, Brittany!
The entirety of Brittany’s wonderful letter can be read on Good Housekeeping. There are a ton of lessons she learned from her experience—but her message about self-confidence and love should be the greatest inspiration to us all.
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